Be Envious, Be Unhappy
Do you find yourself envious of other people? Do these feelings of envy affect the way you feel about yourself? About others?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, you’re wasting your potential; squandering your happiness.
Being envious of others is an easy way to make ourselves very unhappy. I should know. I was envious of other people for much of my life. Being envious crowds out happiness. We don't have to look very hard to find something to be resentful about. Whether it's another person's talent, appearance or wealth, we imagine that they're so much happier than we are.
It's a treadmill that's hard to get off and like a treadmill, it takes us no where.
By focusing so much on another person and what they have, we forget about what we have. We become ungrateful and unhappy. We spend so much time comparing ourselves to others that we fail to develop our own talents and abilities.
Sometimes it's hard to find our own talent, so we try to emulate another's. But talent, like personalities, is also unique. There are thousands of Michael Jackson impersonators, but there was only one MJ!
Envy is one of those emotions we’d like to admit we don’t have, but we do. It’s a very powerful one and if not kept in check, can lead us down roads we do not want to travel. Roads that lead to jealousy, depression, resentment, hate, anger, loss of self-esteem and great unbalance in our social and personal life.
Envy is a symptom of lack of appreciation of our own uniqueness and self worth. But the truth is that each of us has something to give that no one else has.
When our state of mind is filled with envy or jealousy, we usually resent the good fortune, success or abilities found in others. We often wish that the person will lose them all. We might even think of gaining from the loss.
However, resentment toward someone will not take away what the person already possesses. We are the one who is losing. The person we are envious of almost always has persevered for a long time to reach his/her level of success. He/She has worked hard at it and is bestowed to live and experience what he/she deserves.
If you feel that you lack something in life, it only indicates that you have not put in enough effort. It is a sign that you may have to work more on yourself.
To stop being envious of others, we have to recognise the true value in ourselves. This starts with building our self-esteem.
Don't worry about what someone else is or can do. Concentrate on being the best you that you can be. When you do, so much excitement will fill your life that envy will become a thing of the past.
Have you ever given a thought to what you have been blessed with? Look at your own uniqueness and the things that you have been blessed with, have acquired and achieved. Once you notice and appreciate them, you will release the clutters in your mind and in your heart.
Envy can destroy your life, eat through relationships and stop you from enjoying the simple pleasures all around you. Stop coveting other people's things and start focusing on your own.
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